Saturday, December 14, 2013


(This article was first published in December 2008 Metta Center email newsletter.)

In a recent personal EFT session, I connected to a deep part of me that was so anguished because she couldn't find what she has been looking for on Earth. This part connected me to a felt-sense memory of sweet and total abiding love, a place where I felt like I had melted into the gentle bosom of the Universe. It was a glorious and wonderful feeling. My conscious and adult self recognized it as Home to me, even though this was not how my childhood home felt. Somehow, I remembered that this is the blissful place I came from, and I realized that this is where I go to when I find my alignment with Source. But strangely to me, it seemed that this deep part of me wasn't aware that I had learned to find my way Home quite often. It was as if she had not been connected to me as I grew up spiritually.

This part showed me that she was tired of looking. She trusted my soul, and was expecting to find Home, heaven, unconditional love or god on Earth, and she hadn't! She felt homesick. She showed me that she was yearning to go Home. I felt a great wave of disappointment, grief and a deep sense of defeat. Tears just rolled down my cheeks as my heart opened up to this deeper part with profound compassion. I recognized how difficult it must be for this part to keep her faith in my soul, to keep believing that there is Go(o)d in this world and to keep looking for heaven on Earth. I understood that she was done searching.

As the sadness eased, a new thought came through, as if my angels planted a seed of possibility in me: "What if I am what I have been looking for?" A light-bulb suddenly went off. Whoa...What if I am the unconditional love, god, and heaven I have been seeking in the world all this time? No wonder I hadn't found it, because I had been looking at the wrong places. I had been looking outside of me. The unconditional love, god and heaven I seek on this planet are inside of me!

This part of me and I were both stunned by the enormity of the realization. I felt exhilarated and liberated. And... lonely. I sat with all those feelings for a while, allowing this new knowing to integrate gently into my psyche.

Then today, as I was contemplating a tooth-ache -- yes, there's wisdom even in tooth-aches! -- I had realization after realization. One of them was that fear of rejection is an indicator of a desire for deep and total acceptance. Somehow, we believe that we will be safer if we are accepted (loved) by a lot of people. Many people, including me, have been looking outside to others for acceptance. We deeply yearn to be accepted as who we are and we hope, nay, sometimes we expect, that others do it for us. We don't (or won't) trust our own wise-whispers that we have always been acceptable, loveable and worthy no matter what. Haven't we realized yet that, after many trials, not everyone can, and not everyone wants to, meet our hopes and expectations that they completely accept and love us as who we are?

So often we look around and outside of us to find the acceptance, appreciation, approval and love that we want. What if the unconditional, deep abiding love that we seek is in us already, and is us? What if we are that gift we have been looking all over the world to find?

When I chewed on this (see the connection with the toothache, now?) it was clear to me that rejections and disappointments teach this: acceptance is an inside job, and unconditional love is to be found within ourselves first! Heaven on earth begins within!

I thanked this deep part of me for letting me know how strongly and unequivocally she wished to be Home and, thus, showed me clearly my powerful desire to find Home here on Earth. Just becoming aware of this deep and true desire was so healing already. It had brought me to a deeper clarity for the Home that I wanted to create in this space-time. I contemplated some more about me being what I have been looking for. As I surrendered to this invitation from my Spirit, I knew that it was the beginning of a deeper healing for me. I felt peace permeate every fiber of my being. It felt good to be Home.

"And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time." ~ T.S. Elliot

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Quick Tips for A More Harmonious Family Gathering on Thanksgiving Day

Thanksgiving Day usually involves getting together with one's own family. For some people, that is both good news and bad news. If it's bad news to you and you'd like to find a way to be appreciative rather than grumpy while you are with your family, here are some simple tips:

  • Using EFT, you can tap with the setup phrase of: "Even though I don't like my family, I deeply and completely love and accept myself," and tap on all the points. Don't worry if at first you feel guilty admitting you don't like your family. After tapping, you most likely will see that there are aspects of your family that you DO like after all. Then, you can choose to focus on those aspects to maintain a loving connection with your family while you are together. Even I don't like my family all the time, and after tapping using this setup phrase, I am able to realize and remember that I LOVE my family.
  • Using TAT, get in the TAT Pose and focus on whatever it is that is bothering you at that moment and put your attention on the statement: "(This issue) is bothering me now, yet I am OK, I can relax and not let it bother me anymore." (Of course, you can come up with your own statement.
  • Or, you can decide to be amused and practice "keep appreciating!"

If you are not familiar with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique by Gary Craig), you can find a brief introduction to this powerful self-healing technique on my "EFT Tapping Points" webpage.

If you haven't checked out TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique by Tapas Fleming) yet, I recommend that you visit to download their free "How to do TAT for a stressful event" booklet.

Disclaimer: This quick tip using EFT and TAT is provided by Christine Metawati as a good faith effort to expand the use of EFT and TAT in the world. It represents her ideas and do not necessarily represent those of Gary Craig or Tapas Fleming.  EFT and TAT are very powerful self-healing tools but are definitely NOT meant to replace appropriate medical treatment or mental health therapy. No guarantee of results is either stated or implied. If you use the EFT and TAT tips provided above, you are advised to take complete responsibility for your emotional and physical well-being. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of EFT, TAT or any other healing modalities. 

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Keep Appreciating

“The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” 
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I was driving when I asked the Universe what will be helpful for me to focus on. I didn't really need to work on a particular issue but rather I wanted to get a sense of direction where best to put my energy. Thirty seconds later, a black car pulled in front of my car from the other lane. It had a yellow bumper sticker that said: "Keep Appreciating". I literally burst out laughing. What a simple yet wonderful, joyful, terrific message! Was it from the Universe? Well, technically, it was from the driver in front of me. Yet, as we are all messengers of the Light, the impeccable synchronicity told me that the Universe perfectly answered my question. Best of all, my heart has been full of love and gratitude for that yellow bumper sticker and everyone involved in getting it visible enough for me to read it.

I am now passing on that beautiful message: "Keep Appreciating."

On November 28th, we in the United States will be celebrating Thanksgiving Day, a day set aside to give thanks to the Universe, God, Spirit, Mother Earth -- or whatever one would like to call this life-giving power -- for all the good and bounty received in the year.  In that spirit, I would like to give thanks to the Universe for you, my readers and clients, who come from all over the world. Your presence in the world and loving support not only strengthens my commitment to my work but also inspires me personally.

With my love and blessings to you,

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Giving Thanks to Your Body

(This article was first published in November 2007 Metta Center email newsletter.)

In Taoism and Chinese Energy medicine, there is an exercise called "Inner Smile", where you smile at your inner organs.

This exercise has a very practical purpose: self-acceptance and appreciation. This simple and gentle practice is very effective in balancing your meridian system and is very nourishing to your spirit.

Here is a slightly different version of this exercise:
  • Sit or lie comfortably. Alternatively, you can even do this exercise when you are walking or in the shower. Begin by taking several deep breaths, exhaling slowly.
  • Allow yourself to recall the time someone extend a kindness to you and you can feel a sense of appreciation gently arising from within your heart-center.
  • Noticing this feeling of appreciation, you bring your attention and extend this feeling to various parts of your body.
  • Starting from the top of your head, bring your attention and appreciation to your hair, brain, ears, eyes, eyebrows, eyelashes, nose, mouth, teeth, tongue, jaws, and all the supporting tissues around and in your head.
  • Next, appreciate your skin, the largest organ of your body.
  • Move your attention down to your neck, your shoulder, your arms, elbows, wrists, hands, fingers, and nails. Also thank your thighs, knees, ankles, feet, toes and nails.
  • Don't forget to thank your internal organs: heart, lungs and the bronchials, stomach, small and large intestine, pancreas, spleen, liver, gallbladder, kidneys, gonads, and so on.
  • Give thanks to your central nervous system, hormonal system, skeletal and muscular system for their support.
  • In short, appreciate all your various cells, and the incredible intelligence built into you so that you can function and live.
Notice how you feel, emotionally and physically, afterward.

Many of my clients report feeling energized afterwards. Some say that they feel contented, appreciated and loved in a very deep level. Some clients report healing on their physical issues. Many notice a reduction in their stress level and an increase in their ability to stay centered.

Your body is a vehicle for your spirit. Spend some time recognizing it as a marvelous and miraculous creation that it truly is!

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

The Gift of Autumn

 "The foundations of a person are not in matter but in spirit." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The leaves are beginning to turn colors. I feel that suddenly fall has begun in earnest with the first rain of the season. The air smells different and feels crisper.

As mother nature slows down in preparation for winter, you might want to check in with yourself to see if there is a need for you to turn inward as well. As the trees change and drop the leaves in autumn, and then grow more roots in winter, you might be going through similar changes internally.

Perhaps there is an internal urge to drop old ways of being and to change something in your life. Perhaps there is the call to nurture your spiritual self, the root of you. Perhaps this is the time to ask yourself, how are you nurturing yourself?

We nurture ourselves when we connect with and meet our soul's needs. Our soul's needs are always spiritual, expressed as qualities or virtues like acceptance, freedom, peace, respect and purpose. How do you give yourself what you need to nurture yourself?

"Learn the art of taking care of yourself and remember that there is a very fine distinction between being selfish and taking care of yourself. If you take care of yourself, others won't have to." -- Lucille Ball

Sunday, September 8, 2013

Conscious Communication

"If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart." -- Marshall B. Rosenberg

Conscious communication requires us to be truly present to what is occurring. When we are unconscious, we both speak to and react to others out of habit. And in the face of what we perceive as someone's judgment and criticism, we automatically (and unconsciously) defend, withdraw or attack.

To communicate consciously requires attention to two areas:
  •     You speak from awareness of what you are observing, feeling and needing, and
  •     Through watching and listening, you are aware of those same needs in others

I learned about conscious communication through NVC (Non Violent Communication.) It is a process of learning to communicate compassionately and authentically. NVC was created by Marhall B. Rosenberg who wrote "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" (available through major bookstores and

For those of you who are interested in this subject, there is a group in the Bay Area that runs NVC workshops. I am not affiliated with them so you will need to contact them directly for information. Check out and see whether this is a process that may benefit you. I have found NVC to be a profoundly liberating process personally and professionally. The process is simple and yet powerful. Check it out!

"When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion." -- Marshall B. Rosenberg

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Eight Concepts of Healing

from "Woman As Healer" by Jeanne Achterberg

Healing is a lifelong journey towards wholeness

Healing is remembering what has been forgotten about connection, unity and interdepence among all things living and non-living

Healing is embracing what is most feared

Healing is opening what has been closed, softening what has hardened into obstruction

Healing is entering into the transcendent, timeless moment when one experiences the divine

Healing is creativity and passion and love

Healing is seeking and expressing self in its fullness, its light and shadow, its male and female

Healing is learning to trust life