Friday, January 22, 2010

The Gifts of a New Year

New Year is an exciting time for me. It is true that we can start anew any day, any time and every day. However, New Year always holds a special energy of growth for me. There is an energy of excitement, and anticipation of all wonderful things. And, the New Year bears with it powerful potentiality ready to express itself.

Setting your sacred intention for the New Year is a powerful step to consciously create the year that you want.

Unlike a New Year's resolution, setting a sacred intention for the New Year is not about just setting goals to be reached. It is more about setting the "flavor" for the year: what spiritual qualities would you fill your new year with?

For example, if you would like to have a year of meaningful work and deep connection with others, your intention could be something along the line, "I intend to create a meaningful life for me filled with fulfilling work and loving relationships with others." Maybe what you would like is to explore and enjoy life beyond what you are familiar with, then your intention could be "I intend to experience more joy and wonder in my life. I intend to grow with ease." Make sure that you set sacred intention that resonates with you at a very deep level and that you feel delighted at the thought of this intention guiding you throughout the year.

Once you set this intention, visualize or feel what it looks like to be living your intention. If you can't imagine or guess what a meaningful life looks or feels like, just relax and tune in to the feeling of being fulfilled. If there is mind chatter that diminishes your intention, thank it for its input and turn your focus back to the good feelings and your sacred intention. Don't worry about the "how-to"s at this stage. This is the stage where you plant the seed. You can trust that there is information available within the seed to guide its germination and growth.

If you like, you can do a mini-ritual where you write down your sacred intention on a small piece of paper. Then, plant this paper into the ground under a plant that you love.

Throughout the year, your sacred work will be to nurture this intention. Take stock of your current life to see how it is aligned with your sacred intention. What parts of your life are no longer in alignment with it? To be in integrity with your intention, some parts of your life will need to be let go and you may need to learn new ways of being. Regularly check with yourself: What do I need now to further support my sacred intention?

Remember to focus on gratitude, hope and faith. These are energies with high vibrations that will speed up the manifestation of life experiences that fulfill your sacred intention.

Wishing you a year filled with delight, peace, and joy!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010


I call this the other "F" word.

No, not because it is insulting or derogatory in any way. It is just that it has so much charge associated with it, almost like the word "God". Many people are turned off by it, and some people  get defensive when this word is mentioned as a possibility to heal and change a situation.

I think that is because we each have such varied definitions of forgiveness.

Oh yes, I have heard about forgiveness since I was a little girl.  What I thought as of forgiveness was simply not to talk about the issue or think about it anymore. On the surface, all was "forgiven", but not really.

In my early 30s, something happened in my life that shook me to the core and brought out all my fears. I felt bewildered, trapped and scared.

Right around that time, someone gave me a book by Gary Zukav "The Seat of the Soul". I read it to take my mind off the situation. And, somewhere in it, I remembered reading that when we are faced with a challenge, practice going within to ask what our soul wants us to learn through the challenge.

I had nothing to lose, so I tried this exercise. To my surprise, I heard a reply from within: "To forgive."

I wasn't expecting anything would actually happen, so I was  surprised to hear anything, Something or someone from within was actually answering me.

However, I didn't know how to forgive. I could think of Jesus' famous words on the cross: "Father, forgive them for they know not what they were doing." But that didn't feel right to me because I was so sure the people involved knew what they were doing, so I wasn't going to use Jesus' line because it didn't feel congruent to me. So, I asked myself another question: "How?"

I was flashed with a loving feeling, what I now recognized as a feeling of gratitude. I understood that all I need to do to forgive is to send this loving feeling outward to the situation and the people involved.

So, I did as guided, not knowing that this little decision to obey my inner guidance would have such an incredible impact in my life.

To my surprise, within a day the situation was changed 180 degrees, and the people involved came to an understanding. The end result actually was quite to my liking and felt right to me. What a miracle for me.

That's when I understood the meaning and the power of forgiveness.

It wasn't about "Oh, what happened was OK, I can handle it" (because I couldn't, frankly speaking). It wasn't about "I forgive you because I am so enlightened" (because I didn't even know how to forgive at the time). It wasn't about "I forgive you because what is happening is OK with me" (because it wasn't).

To me, forgiveness is about opening up to feel the love inside me when it was hard to find it all around me. It was about giving myself the permission to feel better no matter what was happening outside.

Come to think of it, forgiveness was really about practicing to remember the love that I have within me. Forgiveness is really about me -- not about the other people involved.

May you discover the love that you are capable of being, having, receiving and giving.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Happy New Year!

You suppose you are the trouble
But you are the cure
You suppose that you are the lock on the door
But you are the key that opens it
It's too bad that you want to be someone else
You don't see your own face, your own beauty
Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours.

- Rumi

Here's to your blossoming and growing in bliss, peace, joy, abundance and light!