Friday, September 17, 2010
Success and failure are siblings, I believe.
Failures are great learning opportunities and help us build a strong foundation for future successes. Success brings us to new experiences where further successes (and failures) are possible.
Sometimes, we keep ourselves small and not very successful in life because we fear that our success might lead to unwanted failure.
So here's an EFT script to release the fear that success can create more opportunities for failure.
Tap on the Karate Chop point or rub on the Sore Spot as you say the following setup statements:
"Even though I am afraid that my success can create more opportunities for me to fail, I deeply and completely accept this fear and myself."
"Even though I don't like the thought of failing after my success, so a part of me would rather sabotage me from achieving my success to protect me from further failures, I deeply and completely accept who I am without judgment. I appreciate all of me."
"Even though I feel this fear of more painful failures, and this fear often holds me back in my movement forward in my life, I forgive myself, I forgive this fear, I forgive everyone involved, and I am willing to heal this fear. I know I deserve to move freely and joyously towards my success. I am willing to consider that it can be safe and fun for me to be successful."
Tap on the indicated EFT points and say the reminder phrases, as suggested below, either aloud or in your mind. You can change the reminder phrases to whatever words that fit you better.
Beginning of Eyebrow: "I am afraid that my success can create more failures for me."
Side of Eye: "I don't want to fail anymore. I don't like failures. I don't want to be open to more failures. I have enough of failures in my life."
Under Eye: "I am angry about the times I failed myself or others, or the times others failed me."
Under Nose: "Success feels like it can open possibilities for more failures. I don't like what success can mean to me."
Chin: "A deep part of me is not keen about being successful and all that it means and all that it might bring."
Collarbone: "Success doesn't feel safe for me."
Under Arm: "I am not certain success is safe for me."
Inside of Wrist: "I have no idea how negatively I have thought of success. No wonder I sabotage my success as a way to keep myself safe."
Top of Wrist: "I wonder if it is time to release this fear. What if success also can create more opportunities for more success?"
Top of Head: "Would I like that?"
Beginning of Eyebrow: "I am open to healing this fear. I am open to letting go of all the anger, resentment, grief, disappointment and other negative emotions I have held connected to my past failures. I am even open to forgiving others for their failures."
Side of Eye: "I am open to experiencing that success can be safe for me."
Under Eye: "I realize that what I do with my success is up to me. Yes, there are opportunities for failure but there are also opportunities for success. And I am open to experiencing that my each of my success inspire me to create more successes in my life."
Under Nose: "I have decided not to be afraid of failures anymore. I have decided not to be afraid of successes either."
Chin: "A deep part of me might still feel afraid of my successes. I wonder what it needs to feel comforted and calm."
Collarbone: "I choose to listen to my inner guidance as to what would be comforting and calming for me as I create and embrace my success."
Under Arm: "I choose to be open to considering that success is safe for me."
Inside of Wrist: "I choose to view success as a positive experience. I no longer need to sabotage my successes as a way to keep me safe."
Top of Wrist: "I invite and direct my whole being to heal this fear and to release this old pattern of sabotaging my success. I am eagerly anticipating my successes and having fun at creating my fulfilling life."
Top of Head: "I would love that very much!"
Tap as often as you like to shift your energy on this topic. If you find that you continue to have residual fear that success leads to potential failures, it can be very helpful to tap on specific past events connected to this. Usually it is not the failures that we fear, but the backlash of negative emotions connected to those failures.
Remember that we have the power to release our own negative emotions and shift our thoughts. We no longer need to fear either failure or success.
This EFT script is provided by Christine Metawati as a good faith effort to expand the use of EFT in the world. It represents her ideas and do not necessarily represent those of Gary Craig or EFT. Complete understanding of EFT and the EFT training videos are available at http://www.emofree.com.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
What shall I write about today, my dear friends, other than that you are loved more than you realized. You are valued and treasured. You are more powerful and resourceful than you give yourself credit.
It is sometimes difficult to believe these words.
I wonder, what do you need in order to know that you are loved, valued and treasured? What do you need in order to recognize that you are powerful and resourceful?
Make a list of these needs, if you like. But, when it is all said and done, throw the list out.
Just simply allow yourself to feel the love that is here for you, right now, in this present moment. Let the Universe show you the myriad ways you are loved and appreciated for just who you are, as you are. No list needed, no achievements required, no debts to be paid. The key here is simply to let, to allow. Allow yourself to be delightfully surprised and deeply touched by how creative the Universe is in reaching out to you.
How powerful and resourceful do you think you are? You are powerful and resourceful enough that you can turn your thoughts around. You can create new thoughts. You can think better feeling or worse feeling thoughts. You can turn your negative emotions into positive ones by merely changing your thoughts. You can turn your life around. You can deliberately create what you want to experience in life. My heart sings just imagining the moment you realize you are in charge of your amazing power of creation that has always been there, waiting for you to recognize it and use it deliberately to enhance your life.
Yes, my fellow travelers, we may have different paths in realizing our well-being. But the message is the same: we are loved and we are powerful love itself.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
I was sitting in contemplation when an inner voice said to me, "Do you realize that we often criticize ourselves when we make the smallest mistakes, and we don't celebrate ourselves or feel proud of ourselves until we accomplish something 'grand,' whatever that thing is? And, when we finally reach that big-goal, often after much stress and effort, before we even have time to savor our success and celebrate ourselves, we immediately give ourselves the next thing to do. We are bad if make a small mistake and only good if we make a good, huge, achievement. Don't you think that is out of balance when we do so to ourselves?"
Hm, a good point, I thought.
Looking at my own life, I can see places and times where I did just that, I got upset with myself for a small mistake and I didn't even realize when I did something significantly important for myself, my family or the world around me.
Have you done that? Do you do so often?
Well, how about joining me in a daily practice of being aware of and validating our successes, our accomplishments, all the things we do well, no matter how small? We can start small, just doing it for a week or so. If it feels right and good for you to continue this practice after a week, feel free to do so.
Here's the plan.
We do so many things right every day. If you think about it, our body knows how to do so many miracles of life for us: breathing, processing food, standing straight up, walking, seeing, eliminating toxins, and so much more. Do you know that just to stand upright, the body orchestrated an amazing amount of coordination among muscles, bones, and nerves?
Most of us know how to brush our teeth. It is something we do quite effortlessly. Think of the many various little tasks that go with that small act of caring for ourselves: we are able to squeeze the toothpaste tube and put the paste on our toothbrush just so, we can maneuver our nimble fingers to grab the brush and move it around our mouth in just the right amount of pressure so that we don't hurt ourselves, and some of us probably go through great length choosing a specific toothpaste to use. Imagine all the effort just to clean our teeth. How about all the other ways we take care of ourselves? Thank yourself for driving safely to work, for crossing the street safely, for nourishing yourself. (Never mind if it's junk food now, you'll get out of that habit as you find balance within yourself.) How about all the various ways we contribute to our family, our community and our world?
When I invite you to celebrate your successes and brilliance, in whatever size they come in, I don't mean for you to go around being righteous and telling people off when they criticize you or find fault with you. No. I mean for you to look at yourself with a fresh eye, be aware of all the wonderful things you are already doing so well on daily basis, and validate your amazingness reverently.
If, say, after a week of doing so, you begin to feel the sweetness of appreciation naturally welling up from within you and radiating out towards others, spend a moment to hug yourself and whisper to yourself, "Thank you for paving the way and bringing me closer to Love's Presence."
And, you and the Universe can wink at each other and celebrate your finding the sweet balance within yourself. Congratulations!